You’ve been there for everyone.
Your needs would like to be taken off the waiting list.
Explore I Own the Mess and the Fix—three short books about recognising familiar patterns and finding your own way forward.
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Book One · Training for Disappearance
An exploration of how self-overriding takes shape and becomes familiar. Through the patterns that carried into my marriage, this book follows the beginnings of recognising what I knew—and how much effort I was spending arguing with it.
Book Two · The House That Performance Built
Recognition arrives while I am still in the marriage. This book explores the cost of maintaining the life I had built, the practical work of rebuilding independence and the gradual shift towards allowing what I knew to influence what I did.
Book Three · Reappearance
Leaving brings change, responsibility and a life to rebuild. This book follows the physical exit, an honest reckoning with who I had become while surviving and the everyday choices through which self-loyalty begins to take shape.
I Own the Mess and the Fix – Complete Self-Loyalty Series
Original price was: R 299.00.R 249.00Current price is: R 249.00.
Three books about disappearing from your own life—and learning to make room for yourself again.
Sometimes you get so used to keeping everything going that you stop asking whether any of it is working for you.
Everyone’s needs have been considered. Yours are apparently being dealt with by another department.
I Own the Mess and the Fix brings together Training for Disappearance, The House That Performance Built and Reappearance: one connected story about recognising familiar patterns, facing uncomfortable truths and learning to do things differently.
Through honest lived experience, moments of reflection and Studio Notes, the trilogy invites you to understand yourself better, explore different perspectives and consider small, practical changes in your own life.
Your story doesn’t have to look like mine for something here to be useful. Take what speaks to you, consider your circumstances and give yourself room to begin.
“You don’t have to change everything today. Start with one choice that includes you too.”